Did you know that a distorted perception of your pregnancy, comparing yourself to others, and negative self-talk are major contributors to stress and anxiety? Another cause of stress and anxiety is living in the past or projecting into the future.
Living in the past or projecting into the future disconnects you from yourself and your present moment. Pain (stress, anxiety, worry, grief, etc.) is the derived from this disconnection. The further away you are from the present moment and the more deeply you are engaging and reacting to the past or future, the greater the pain.
Our sister Remy Ma and our brother Papoose shared their experience with an ectopic pregnancy on Love and Hip Hop New York. I love this couple to the core. Amid foolishness and ratchetness, this strong Black couple has presented a beautiful manifestation of true Black love, loyalty and family on national television.
It has been an honor and privilege for this couple to let us into their life and daily experiences. We see the real triumphs and struggles of a modern Black family life.
We all saw their wedding and re-commitment to each other during Remy’s dream wedding. Papoose was ready to immediately start expanding that family. So since we’ve been following them so closely and feeling apart of their family, we were so happy to learn that Remy and Papoose became pregnant. Then soon after we learned that the pregnancy was ectopic.
We saw a beautiful manifestation of Black womanhood and African Spirituality at Beyoncé at the Grammy's.
All those in the know were in awe of her manifestation of Oshún, the Goddess of Rivers and Beauty. She flaunted her pregnant belly in a way no other artist ever has. For the first time I’ve ever seen, Beyoncé bared her body but not for sexual reasons. Rather she demonstrated the beauty that is the Black expecting woman in all her glory and grandeur.
Mainstream society wants you to sit around and wait until you're 40+ to start getting mammograms in order to "prevent breast cancer."
Mainstream society has dumbed down breast cancer prevention to the simple act of getting an annual mammogram. Meanwhile, all kinds of toxic chemicals and stagnating practices are pushed onto Black women.