Many have been speculating for months that Cardi B was pregnant. Cardi B revealed her pregnancy on her own time on SNL in a beautiful white gown. The world is now celebrating with her. I for one did not jump on the speculation bandwagon. I respect women’s privacy and decision on when or if to reveal a pregnancy.
I can’t help but to imagine being Cardi B’s doula. If I were her doula, here are a few things I would be covering with her:
1. Nutrition and Hydration – Cardi B has a very packed schedule. It’s easy to skip meals, forget to drink water or just eat junk food out of convenience. She has the coins to hire a personal chef and that would be money well spent. Also, she’d probably need a wellness coach or an assistant to keep tabs on her water intake and make sure she’s staying properly hydrated.
2. Remember, You’re Human – There’s a weird cultural shift towards sleeping little, grinding, hustling, and “getting the bag.” While all that is nice, it is not conducive to pregnancy. There are many people depending on Cardi B for a check and an army of publicists, label executives, managers, booking agents, stylists, media and fans demanding time and energy from Cardi B. Now that Baby Bardi is on the way, this totally shifts her priorities, and Baby Bardi has to come first.
3. Flats Are Your Friends – Avoid swollen feet, bad posture, and the baby positioning bad in the pelvis by wearing flats. Heels are cute but don’t let your stylist jack up your bones. Ligaments and joints are more flexible in pregnant women as the body prepares for birth. Pregnant women are more prone to back pain, joint pain and swollen feet from wearing heels.
4. Your Baby is Coming Right on Time – Tune out people with their criticism and opinions about the timing of your little one. No one will ever be happy with the timing. Either it’s too soon or too late or some other opinion about why you shouldn’t be pregnant. Don’t worry about what people have to say about your pregnancy. Everything is flowing in Divine timing.
5. Take Your time After Baby – Your team may be booking you for gigs right after you deliver. You’ll be Cardi B the new mom, not Cardi B the robot. Again, you’re human. Take your full maternity leave. You have time to be famous and book gigs, but the first few weeks of your baby’s and your life together is a once in a lifetime moment. Plus, the more holistically and complete that you recover after birth, the better your long-term health and the health of the baby will be. This will ensure that you can have others, avoid mood disorders and get the very best possible start.
6. Exclusive Breastfeeding is Possible – You should hit up some of your celebrity friends who exclusively breastfed their baby. I think you may have Beyoncé’s line and I’m pretty sure she exclusively breastfed for a period of time. Your celebrity friends can help share the tips and trick that they used to make it work. You can pump milk for your baby, get support from an lactation consultant in your home (hotel/tour bus/plane), and bring your baby with you with the support of family and a nanny. You can do it. And, the benefits of exclusive breastfeeding are just phenomenal.
7. Your Mood and Emotions – Having a baby is a transformational process for women. Surround yourself with a supportive village. The village should ensure that you eat well, rest well, and nourish yourself. Proper nourishment of the mother – Body, Soul, Mind – is a recipe for post-delivery success. This nourishment will give you the fuel to transition into motherhood with more peace and confidence.
Again, congratulations Cardi B! If we were in the boogie down Bronx, we’d love to be your doula. But, you have many great options in the BX. I hope you find the perfect doula that can walk by Offset and your’s side for this entire glorious journey.
Sending love from RootMama.